turned twenty twice
I recently completed my 40th trip around the sun, and I can admit it feels a little daunting—but above all, I’m filled with deep gratitude. Reflecting on my past almost four decades, I thought I would share 20 things I am grateful for or lessons I’ve learned and share 20 more later on… in no particular order:
I am deeply thankful that our family feels complete. My dream wishlist was two boys and a little girl. Any version would have been perfect, of course, but I still have those pinch-me moments. My fourth child, my puppy Maple, is the sweetest girl in the whole world.
My husband. We’ve had our peaks and valleys like any long-term relationship, but our love story is my favourite.
I’m grateful that I still have my parents, that Justin does as well, and that we’re lucky enough to still have a few grandparents with us. Not everyone receives that blessing.
I’m thankful that my sister-in-law gets to celebrate her own milestone birthday with her newlywed husband. It’s been such a joy to witness their sweet union.
I’m grateful that I’ll be graduating this year and that I carved out time for myself during this busy season of motherhood.
I’m learning not to put off the things that scare me—medical appointments, therapy sessions, and the like. Procrastination only gives those things more weight than simply getting them done.
Grief and joy often coexist.
There’s so much life to live in the in-between. Remaining present is a gift.
Reading > scrolling
Working out isn’t a vanity project—it’s a health investment.
I’m thankful that God helped me gather the deconstructed pieces of a fragmented faith and, like the Japanese art of kintsugi, put me back together.
Interior design isn’t vapid. While it’s not the most important thing, our environment impacts us. Finding beauty can be a real source of joy.
I am a capable student. I knew that, but earning a 4.0 GPA is something I’m truly proud of.
Anti-anxiety medication can be life-changing. It’s not the whole picture, but it was a missing piece for me.
Colour seasons are surprisingly helpful. I’m a Soft Summer. Tubing mascara is a holy grail product.
Dressing for myself rather than trends has been a gift in my 30s. I’m slightly below average height, and whether I’m at my fighting weight or not, I’m a voluptuous girl. Learning to work with my body has made me feel more confident.
I’m very thankful I’ve worn daily sunscreen for years. Aside from one small mouth line, I still feel pretty youthful. (I don’t hate aging—I’d just rather not accelerate it.)
One lesson I still need to learn: bedtime procrastination never pays off.
I can sing. Take the compliment when it comes and don’t be a silly goose.
Finding my voice and speaking out for the marginalized and corrupt faith systems is important
Believing in my ability to try new things will serve me well.
The best way out of a rut is to try something new.
Embracing softness brings deep peace.
Anxiety doesn’t serve me. It isn’t a protective coping mechanism—it’s a vice.
The idea of “earning” food or a cheat day gives food too much power. Food is fuel and fun. Keep it simple: eat—not too much or too little. Focus mostly on whole foods and plants.
Marriage is worth the investment—vulnerability and all, fully committed.
Childhood memories aren’t defined by Pinterest-perfect moments, but by the everyday mundane.
Prioritize presence over perfection.
If you’ve lost your sparkle, you can get it back.
Offline hobbies that aren’t for commodification or content are good for the soul. Handwritten notes are priceless.
Putting your kids in French immersion means they will try to talk smack right in front of you… That’s why I’ve been secretly learning for years lol!
A secret to good interior design when it comes to colour is using a few shades of the same hue, which adds dimension
I’m a great mom. Not a perfect mom, but a damn good one. Some may have stocks in the market (we do too), but more than financial wealth, my three kids are my main investments and legacy. (which is good as they are money pits lol). Of course, it’s a legacy and investment without strings attached as seeing them thrive and achieve their goals and dreams is my wish for them.
Homemaking is honourable and hard work. Finding systems is a science and art.
Habits are what make goals achievable
Letting go and letting God isn’t a sign of weakness, but tapping into strength
Hydration is underrated
Cynicism is no way to live
Say the kind thing that comes to mind
Laugh often. Don’t hold in tears. A soft heart and a strong mind go hand in hand
Shout-out to Sweets By Jess, who absolutely knocked it out with my dream cake! 🍰🍰🍰
